LETTING GO TAKES LOVE

LETTING GO TAKES LOVE

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another.

To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself.

To let go is not to care for, but to care about.To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their destinies.

To let go is not to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny, but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more

Remember: The time to love is short

Changes

It’s no surprise that as you live your life in Second Life changes happen on a regular basis.  If you’re lucky enough to have found a group of people whether they are family or friends in your SL that stick by you always, then you’ve been blessed by the SL Gods.  Sadly though more often we find ourselves embroiled in drama, bullshit and just pure craziness.  Hopefully many of us have learned to cut the ties and move forward without it diminishing our enjoyment of SL. 

Going into my 4^th year in Second Life I have found a little of everything.  I do have a strong base of family and friends who I love and adore.  It’s taken me quite awhile to get there but they are truly the most amazing people with the biggest hearts.  Even back in the beginning I ran into my own drama, of my own making and learned to deal with it.  I’ve lost friends who left SL or we just lost touch, I’ve had kids that have left for many reasons and I truly hope they are happy and I have had to walk away and say enough is enough.  For all those reasons life in SL continues, some days are better than others but in the end I know that I have done the best with what I’m given and who I am. 

I learned early on that passing judgment on things I do not understand is wrong.  How can I tell someone that what they are doing is wrong?  (Unless of course it’s illegal, pedophilia)  I have no right to tell anyone how to live their life, what they should do and if it’s wrong or not.  Second life to some is about living out a fantasy, a social network, reliving a childhood that maybe you were lacking and sometimes it helps fill the void that you may have in real life.  Sometimes you find love that is forever, sometimes it’s just for the moment and sometimes it causes heart break.  All you can do is pick yourself up and move forward living your life honestly and happily. 

Change happens when you least expect, as do changes in relationships.  When a friendship is lost for whatever reason it doesn’t mean that you’re not thought of often, it’s just that the time had come for the relationship to end.  In the 3 ½ years in SL I do not hate anyone even those that thought name calling and bullying were the right response.  I feel bad for those that think that is the only way to get their point across but that’s it.  As I move along in my life my priorities are simple, live, laugh and love.  There are those that love me regardless of my mistakes, those that accept me for who I am, good and bad.  I love them with the same unconditional candor.  No one is perfect and no one should have to live up to the rules and judgments of others. 

We are all in SL for a reason, yours may be different then mine but in the end, there was something in our RL that had us join a virtual world and stay with it.  How you or I play it, is simply our right, our decision and no one has the right to judge you for it.